How Did I Let Myself Go?

Sunday Reflection Blog

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and brain storming…and I am shocked at how much weight I’ve gained.  More than that I’ve really went off the deep end, looking up plastic surgery, looking up how I should look for a video or just in general,I realize it now…

I can’t stand my stomach or my flabby arms, I can’t stand that I don’t look or feel beautiful, I want to change my health and change my life.

Also wanting to be in better shape for tickle and BDSM play is kind of important.

So here’s more updates:

My trip to Ohio did not happen,  I moved back home, I broke up with my ex of four years, which has broken me up inside more than I thought.

With Christmas time around the corner it is painful seeing Hallmark movies, though they do bring me joy and hope that one day I will connect with the pagan male I dream of.

I know this is going to take time, blood, sweat and tears, but I also know that I do love myself inside enough to know I am worthy and beautiful and deserve to feel good.  I am blessed with my intuitive and healer abilities and I know it is time work on those as well.

I am ready and open to better my life,

xoxo,

Manda

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Feathered Pleasure

The Tickle Fetish World

Today I wanted to come out and share with you a fetish that I am well versed in which is tickling.

Not the Same Kind of Tickling…

You probably are thinking is this the same ticking that we do with our friends? Or that our parents did to us?

In short, the answer is no, fetish tickling tends to be more electrifying, and more of an adrenaline rush. Did I mention you can burn serious calories?

Tickling With an Edge

Tickling in the BDSM, and kink world is more intense and often it’s not just being silly, while it can be two people being funny, tickling sessions tend to be long, intense, and produce gut wrenching, hysterical laughter.

Tickling can be completely playful, or have an erotic twist. For some of us it can be a fun form of foreplay, or others it is apart of sex. There’s also people who have a mild foot fetish and love tickling feet. It can also be used in the form of punishment if a submissive doesn’t behave, or if a ticklee(person being tickled).

Tickle Lingo

Here are a few terms to familiarize yourself with in the tickling world.

  • Tickler- person who is doing the tickling.
  • Ticklee- person being tickled
  • Switch-person who is the tickler and the ticklee they play both roles(me)
  • Stocks- device used to restrain the feet/toes, may the gods have mercy on your soul.
  • Safe Word- not just used in tickling but you will hear this a lot. This word is used when the ticklee cannot take anymore and is at their wits end.
  • Edging- a term used to be describe bringing someone close to orgasm and then switching to doing something else to keep them from releasing. Again, may the gods have mercy on your soul.

Good Tickles Vs Lame Tickles

Seems kind of harsh doesn’t it? In truth you need to be very careful about who you allow to cuff you up and go to town on your ticklish spots.

There are some ticklers merely just in it because it’s an excuse to touch the body.

Good Tickler

  • Gets to know you, they will typically be open to being your friend and holding a conversation that isn’t just tickling. They should want to get inside your head and get s feel for who you are and what makes you jump, squeal, laugh , yell, or knows what NOT to do for instance, some people are not open to erotic tickling and that is to be respected.
  • Aware of your heart beat, breath, and how well you can breathe. This may sound silly, or weird, but when you are in a tickle session your heart beat sky rockets, you will sweat immensely, and it takes a lot out of you and a good tickler will see this and give you breaks. We wouldn’t want you to pass out now would be?!
  • Asks if you need water. Along with the above statement your tickler should also be asking you if you need a water or drink every so often. Stay hydrated!
  • Balances the use of tools such as brushes, glosses, etc with the balance of using their bare hands.

The Tickler You Should Avoid

  • Will just message you on social media and go right into how they want to tickle you. A good tickler is aware of what makes you laugh and they aim to get a reaction out of you, versus, a tickler who just goes at you which can also be a safety issue, and even can lead to broken ribs, and other injuries if the tickler is being too rough.
  • Forceful and not in a playful way
  • Will not take no for an answer.

What Happens During a Tickle Session

You and your partner, will discuss limits, what’s okay and what’s not, if you want to be restrained or free, and then from there you two will agree on a safe word.

The session then starts afterward, do NOT tense, be relaxed it will make it more fun and comfortable for both of you. Don’t hold your breath, it’s okay laugh it out, we all know it won’t be long until you break into hysterical whoops of laughter anyway!

When the session is over your partner should check to make sure there’s nothing injured, and that you are indeed still breathing.

Then you both may do reflections they may ask how you enjoyed it, what you liked, what you didn’t like, and then you will be on your merry way, and may make another date for another session.

Energy Play

Mind Blowing Sex on a Spiritual Level

I thought I would write this post in order to discuss what exactly astral sex is and some basic safety tips and hacks.
By no means do I claim to be an expert these are just experiences and the advice I offer on them.

What is astral sex or energy play?
Astral sex or energy play is where your soul and someone else’s make love, kink, or play in the astral realms. This is a whole new experience if you have never done it you’re missing out! I personal prefer energy play before I meet a potential because it gives me a deeper connection which I need and require from anyone i have any interest in whether friend, kinkster, dom, or submissive, or seeking mentor ship from me.

Things to consider before you decide to astral:
Meditate before you play, seriously a calm relaxed mind is important you are after going to be connecting on a psychic level.
Balance your chakras BEFORE and AFTER you play- chakras are energy wheels they are important to balance because they can cause many blocks in your life and you would never know it also keeps your vibes, bright and strong. There;s so many benefits to a chakra balance.

SHIELD- keep your energy protected at all times by envisioning a shield around you, don’t forget when you in the astrals, there are many people and spirits best to protect yourself.

KNOW your partner, It’s vitally important you have a good feel for your partners energy before you even go to play, how will you connect otherwise? Get to know each other, and if most importantly, if something doesn’t feel right DONT do it.

Also I suggest a very basic 101 in psychic or empath development it is another important aspect to astral play and will strengthen your connection to not just you but your partner as well.

KNOW what you want and make it clear- if you want a sensual time playing you need to find a dom or play partner who can deliver this, if you know someone wants pain play and you don’t like pain they probably aren’t the astral partner for you unless they are also into sensual play and can leave it out.

Keep these tips in mind and you will have a lovely time.
Happy Mind fucking!

The Ways of Kinky Fuckery

Tips for Easing Yourself Into The BDSM and Fetish Community

First let me start out by saying I am by no means an expert in this field I am just here to share my experiences with you.

Before you go hopping into suspension from the ceiling, or getting whipped a bunch of times read these tips,

  • RESEARCH– I can’t tell you how many women I have met who said their experience was “not fun”, “boring” or unsatisfying.  The reason why that may happen is because either you haven’t researched a fetish at a deeper level.  If you are interested in a specific fetish or kink it is essential to research a lot BEFORE you even think to try it.  There are also many different terms, meanings, and vocabulary again this is why research is needed you really have to understand what you are getting yourself into before going into a play session.
  • KNOW YOUR HARD LIMITS-  one of the most important things when it comes to ANY and I do mean ANY relationship with anyone in the BDSM or fetish world is to know what you DON’T want to try or do.  It is also important to know what you want from the person.  Do you want a dom?  Are you looking to add some spice to your marriage or bedroom? Know your hard limits and stick to them.
  • SAFE WORDS ARE MANDATORY-    at the point in time because you are so new or not sure of how much of a kink you like, the intensity, the pressure, the emotion, etc, it is really important to have a safe word you and your play mate agree upon.
  • EVERYONE Has a Place- in the fetish community everyone has a place and it is respected, provided you find the right people, and you take caution with those you do converse with.  The fetish community is typically non judgmental and you kind of have to be in this community with an open mind.  There is a kink for everyone I promise!
  • Join an Online Fetish Community or Kink App- another way to establish yourself and get yourself into to amazing world of kink, is to join an online community or app, most of these allow you to post any picture you want so discretion is not a worry!  I recommend “Fetlife” for websites and the Whiplr app for iphone or android.  I will write up a segment and review on Whiplr in future posts.  Both communities allow you to reach out and get know others, you can select what you are seeking, whom you are, your kinks, your hard limits and more.

Whether you like having your feet tickled, or being spanked over a handsome hunks knee, or everything in between, I hope you find grand pleasure and life long friendship and support.

 

Dooking Over the Rainbow Bridge

Veterinary Visits and Goodbyes

Hey lovelies

Today has been a very hard day for myself indeed.   I noticed my older ferret  of 4 years, was not any better, so I decided to take him to the vet.  It took a little bit because most vets did not see ferrets so I really had to look and finally I found one.

We noticed a week ago that he was skinny, and it was weird he was fine a week or so before we thought maybe it was the new cage and he just was adjusting to it.  Sadly it just got worse so it was time to bring him in.

I had high hopes it was something small like an infected tooth, or something minimal.

Unfortunately it was ferret insulinoma, it is highly deadly and fatal to ferrets I will be writing up another blog post about this at a later date.  The vet had said that it was so aggressive already there really wasn’t much that could done.  I didn’t want him to suffer so I had decided to do the best thing for him which was to humanely euthanize him.

The staff was amazing and so very supportive, and it helped provide some comfort as I sat in a room with him for awhile and just held him, telling him what a good boy he was, how much I love him, that I am still with him, I held him and cried, the vet and technician came into the room and were so kind very caring about the whole ordeal.

I will miss you bandit, thank you for giving me four years of pads stacked like building blocks, laughter, and most importantly ferret love.  You truly were the best ferret anyone could ever wish for and I am so glad you walked with me physically, through part of my journey.

Your wings were ready but my heart was not.

 

Healing Our Pets

Your Guide to Animal Reiki

It is no doubt that holistic medicine is booming.  Alternative medicine is every and anywhere we look.  We often see crystal jewelry, crystal healers,psychics, and reiki masters.   These amazing light workers all bring wondrous joy to humans.

Did you know reiki does not just benefit us well magically mundane folk?  It can also benefit our fur babies as well!

What is Reiki?

Reiki is where a practitioner( aka me who is certified), will channel universal life force energy through their hands and then it is sent to the animal or person, in which then they choose where they need the healing to go.  Reiki also helps to remove blocks or clear our chakras or energy wheels these wheels are vitally important to our overall well being and they are just as essential to our pets.

The Benefits of Animal Reiki

I bet by now you’re sitting there at computer jumping down in excitement for this segment of this blog post!  Look no further! Here are the benefits of animal reiki:

  • Strengthen bond between pet and owner
  • Relieve past, and/or currently live trauma such as abuse.
  • Help provide comfort to a hospice patient
  • Speed up the healing process of post-op procedures
  • Help remove unwanted behavior

You can find many animal reiki masters among social media for your pet I also am certified and can perform animal reiki as well.

Have you tried animal reiki?

I’ll Talk My Latte With Sign Language

Starbucks Opens It’s Debut Sign Language Shop in Washington, D.C.

When you walk into the brand new Washington D.C store, don’t expect the typical mermaid cup filling, green apron-clad caffeineista.

What’s so unique you ask?  These lovely baristas can speak coffee in sign language!

Here are some even more awesome reasons why you need to visit if you are ever in the Washington D.C. Area:

  • Located at a section of H Street Northeast, where Gallaudet University is near by, the world’s only liberal arts college for the deaf, and those with hearing issues.
  • Umbrella’s located at the front of the store, not only have “Starbucks” on them but they also include “Starbucks” in American Sign Language fingerspelling.
  • Exclusive mugs for this location that can only be found here.
  • No ambient music
  • Two way communication tablets for questions such as “What kind of milk?”
  • Chairs and Tables will be lower to be help with visibility as well as bright lights with a matte finish to prevent as much glare from the lighting as possible!

These are just a few of the things you will notice at this lovely location.

I sure hope we see more of these Starbuck’s coming to other locations nationwide!

Source: https://www.cnn.com/travel/article/asl-starbucks-opens-washington-dc/index.html