How Did I Let Myself Go?

Sunday Reflection Blog

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and brain storming…and I am shocked at how much weight I’ve gained.  More than that I’ve really went off the deep end, looking up plastic surgery, looking up how I should look for a video or just in general,I realize it now…

I can’t stand my stomach or my flabby arms, I can’t stand that I don’t look or feel beautiful, I want to change my health and change my life.

Also wanting to be in better shape for tickle and BDSM play is kind of important.

So here’s more updates:

My trip to Ohio did not happen,  I moved back home, I broke up with my ex of four years, which has broken me up inside more than I thought.

With Christmas time around the corner it is painful seeing Hallmark movies, though they do bring me joy and hope that one day I will connect with the pagan male I dream of.

I know this is going to take time, blood, sweat and tears, but I also know that I do love myself inside enough to know I am worthy and beautiful and deserve to feel good.  I am blessed with my intuitive and healer abilities and I know it is time work on those as well.

I am ready and open to better my life,














Energy Play

Mind Blowing Sex on a Spiritual Level

I thought I would write this post in order to discuss what exactly astral sex is and some basic safety tips and hacks.
By no means do I claim to be an expert these are just experiences and the advice I offer on them.

What is astral sex or energy play?
Astral sex or energy play is where your soul and someone else’s make love, kink, or play in the astral realms. This is a whole new experience if you have never done it you’re missing out! I personal prefer energy play before I meet a potential because it gives me a deeper connection which I need and require from anyone i have any interest in whether friend, kinkster, dom, or submissive, or seeking mentor ship from me.

Things to consider before you decide to astral:
Meditate before you play, seriously a calm relaxed mind is important you are after going to be connecting on a psychic level.
Balance your chakras BEFORE and AFTER you play- chakras are energy wheels they are important to balance because they can cause many blocks in your life and you would never know it also keeps your vibes, bright and strong. There;s so many benefits to a chakra balance.

SHIELD- keep your energy protected at all times by envisioning a shield around you, don’t forget when you in the astrals, there are many people and spirits best to protect yourself.

KNOW your partner, It’s vitally important you have a good feel for your partners energy before you even go to play, how will you connect otherwise? Get to know each other, and if most importantly, if something doesn’t feel right DONT do it.

Also I suggest a very basic 101 in psychic or empath development it is another important aspect to astral play and will strengthen your connection to not just you but your partner as well.

KNOW what you want and make it clear- if you want a sensual time playing you need to find a dom or play partner who can deliver this, if you know someone wants pain play and you don’t like pain they probably aren’t the astral partner for you unless they are also into sensual play and can leave it out.

Keep these tips in mind and you will have a lovely time.
Happy Mind fucking!

Meet Me on the Web

No Bull Tips For Meeting Someone In Person

Social media, and dating  have become a very married topic.  Today I am going to give you some pointers about meeting people that you’ve spoken to online. Please note I do not guarantee any results and should you feel that your life is in danger please call 911 IMMEDIATELY.


This one is kind of a no brainer.  If this is your first time meeting someone, especially someone you don’t skype, or face time a lot, meeting at your house may not be the brightest idea.  If you are going to meet at your house, please at least make sure you have a bestie, or guard dog with you.

I always recommend meeting in public, it is definitely much safer the first time you meet.

DON’T Leave Your Drink Abandoned

Again another cliche’ but very important bit of information, if you at any time have to leave your martini, cosmo, or any other open container drink where you cannot see it, please don’t leave it and then drink it.  It may be more costly but you never know if someone is going to leave a “surprise coma” in your drink.

If Something Feels “Off” Don’t Ignore It

If something doesn’t feel right or “shady” about the person you’re planning to meet wait a good week to a month see if it still feels off, if it does, please don’t go and meet them you really never know who sits behind that screen.

Meeting people in person that you’ve talked to online can be fun, amazing, and such a lovely experience but please take precautions when you do.



“It’s Not Fun Anymore..”

The Surprising Reason Your Bedroom Boom Isn’t Explosive Anymore.

You’ve had three years or more of explosive mind blowing sex, with your partner.  But lately, it just seems to routine, and it feels like you’re just bumping uglies to get it over with.

What happened?!  Why is sex no longer fun for you or both or both of you?

The Answer May Surprise You…

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You have an energy wheel called the “Sacral Chakra”.  This chakra is what keeps that sexy energy flow between you and your partner flowing.  The sacral chakra is sexual energy, this energy wheel when blocked may cause an array of issues including, but not limited to, boredom with sexuality, routine sex, lack of sex, over active sex drive, not achieving orgasm, and even can cause menstrual issues.


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How Does One Achieve Orgasm, and Unblock the Sensual Sacral Chakra?

There are a few ways, one way that I strongly encourage clients. is to go through a sexy reiki session.  This is a new service that I have added and the benefits are explosive.  Everything has energy right?  That includes you and your partner’s relationship in and out of the bedroom, so having a session done by me, or another reiki master of your choosing, will help you to unleash the blocks, discuss any concern or anything that may be causing a block, and then open and balance both of you and your partner’s chakras and the chakras of your relationship(yes inanimate objects are beneficial to reiki too). Once the chakras are balanced I will attune you to each other’s chakras allow an ultimate mind, body, and soul relationship that will surely get the bedroom blazing!

Another way or an add on to a reiki session which is highly beneficial to women is what is called a Yoni wand, this wand is made of crystal, don’t worry this is perfectly safe to insert in your hot pocket!  Yoni wands help balance and maintain sexual energy.  Think of them as a magical dildo!

What tips do you find that keeps your bedroom hotter than a night in Cabo?